Attitude matters
My friend/boss called me today to ask a question. As soon as
he heard my “Good morning!” I felt him smile. He proceeded to ask how I was - “Fantastic!”
was my reply. He started laughing. And complimented me on my always great attitude.
Even if my mood is not great, I am always answer the phone like I was just
sitting and waiting for my “friend” to call me. And people love talking to me
on the phone, even if they call wrong number, lol
Good attitude is a choice, and many of us choose to be
miserable, and then they wonder why they are feeling so miserable, it all
starts with that first Good morning and the first smile that you give yourself
when you look in the mirror. Your all day is pretty much defined by that. I agree,
there are some good days and some bad days. Have you noticed that when you are
in a bad mood people shy away from you, and when you are smiling and beaming
you become like a people magnet. People want to spend time with you, and don't want
to leave. That could create another problem. People start taking advantage of
you, and I guess that’s where I fall into. I get taken advantage of a lot,
without even realizing that I am being used. Don't ask me how it works, I am
still trying to figure it out myself.
First things first – Learn how to say NO. This is a problem
for many people, sometimes it's hard to say NO. My cousin is dating, and if she
does not like someone she will just stop taking their calls instead of just
saying “I am not interested”. About few month ago or so, I offered my best
friend to join me for the 3 day camping trip. I was really excited that I will
get to spend 3 days with her! That was till she said that she got a wedding invitation
for that weekend from a Russian girl that she saw maybe 3 times in her life, that
girl was married to her ex-husband’s friend…..so she was blowing me off for a
wedding invitation. At first I did not
say anything, I shot down as always, and then her roommate called in said that
she is afraid of a big spider in the room. Since my friend is afraid of spiders
herself she asked my husband to help her. As soon as they left, I found myself
in the dark house all alone, it was after 10 pm. I felt more alone than I ever
been. My husband just left me to help his ex-wife to fight a spider (my best
friend is his ex) and my best friend blew me off for someone who she does not
really know because she does not know how to say NO. I started pacing, thinking
and feeling. I let my emotions and feelings take over me completely, I was shaking
with anger and self-pity, my breath was shallow and rapid. Pacing brought me to
the kitchen to the “calming tea” that I made for my friend and she did not even
drink. It was still hot, and was comforting. I poured myself a cup. Then something
broke inside of me. I started crying, I went outside to weep, and I did not
want to disturb my son and his girlfriend. I was sitting, feeling sorry for
myself, because nobody was going to do it for me, then my son came out, put his
big arms around me and kept me company till my husband came home.
I called her same night, and I told her how much she hurt
me. She did not even understand that I could be that upset over some camping
trip. For me it was not just another camping trip, for me it was the time
together. I felt that our relationship have changed after that, I felt betrayed.
She is still my friend, but I think it will take years till
we are on the same page once again. We used to be very close for about 5-6
years, till she introduced me to one of her new friends, that drove a big wedge
in our relationship (her friend did not like me), and only after 10 years we
were beginning to get close again, till this episode happen. We still going to
be friends but I don't know how long it will take to get close again.
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