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Naturally my niece asked me to help her to get a new car. She was no longer wanting to drive her tiny teal color Chevy Aveo with 150k miles. How she got her Chevy is another story, but I really did not expect a car like that to live past 100K, it was a miracle that it was still driving. So I volunteered to help her find a decent car, since I worked at the dealership for a year, I still have few contacts. So I called my former co-worker. When I started selling cars he was my mentor, and a lot more. We had so much history together, when we worked we were inseparable, we were complete opposites. And opposites attract. He is black, goes to church, he is one of those people I always made fun off. So life decided to give me a lesson, when it brought us together. Working at the dealership, we spent at least 60 hours a week together, naturally on the first day we started flirting, and flirting we did. Till the moment I found myself all the way in the back, in the parts room, between very...

Why do you need to make an effort, what is it for, who needs it? What does it mean to make an effort in the relationship? In my understanding it means that I need to go out of my way to please someone else, or to do something for my partner. It could be a simple online research, or as complicated as learning a new language if your partner does not speak yours. Any relationship is a give and take, it's kinda like a child’s see saw game where one kid is on one side of the board, and another one is on the opposite – one person cannot play this game alone. And if one kid is bigger than the other, he needs to make an effort not to sit down to fast, so the other one will not get airborne. It all depends on you, since you are the only one responsible for your actions and choices. Every day you make a choice, and every choice has consequences. My husband said that he will make an effort to learn something that interests me, but he said that he will learn it only if it's delivered...

When you keep a feeling locked up inside of you for the fear of it coming out and hurting someone you love you only hurt yourself. I woke up very depressed on Friday, it was almost physical pain, and it felt like I had extra 20 pounds to carry around. I was trying to shake it off, and it was just weighing me down like a stone tied to my ankle and pulling me down to the depth of the dark, cold water. I knew deep down the exact reason for this horrible feeling, but it was not formed into the words yet. I was trying to mute it, I did not want to hear it, but my conscious would not allow it to be ignored. When I came in to work, I thought it would be easier for me to push it down, the next thing I knew I was typing away in my blog, and that’s how my previous post was born. The feelings were just pouring out of me like a vomit trying to get rid of the poison in the body. It helped me a lot, when I was finished writing I felt lighter, but the deep feeling of dread did not go away. I co...

Today started out like a regular Friday, nothing special. My day started as usual with my daily routine, when I got to work, I started checking my FB to see what new posts my friends posted, and I came across one interesting post, that stirred up a lot of emotions. I actually waited till afternoon to write my post here, had to get my emotion settle, before I was able to write Here is the article in question At first what caught my eye was the word " gaslighting ", I had no clue what it meant, so I proceeded to click on the link, mind you, it was like 7:30 in the morning, and I do not drink coffee :). So I finish reading this article, and it has me almost in tears by the end of it. Ok, I do admit that I am feeling a little bit more emotional than usual at this time of the month, but still...   I am married second time around, and my first husband was verbally abusive to me, and I married him when I was 18, very impressionable at that young age. Its really hard t...